We’ve all been there — staring at a closet full of clothes and still feeling like we have nothing to wear. It’s frustrating, overwhelming, and sometimes even disheartening. Over time, I realized that my wardrobe felt cluttered not just with clothes, but with choices that didn’t truly reflect me.
Slow fashion isn’t just about buying less. It’s about making choices that feel intentional, thoughtful, and aligned with your values. It’s about creating a wardrobe that supports you, rather than one that adds stress to your life. If you’ve ever struggled with decision fatigue, impulse buys, or feeling disconnected from your personal style, you’re not alone.
Here are five lessons that helped me build an intentional wardrobe that feels effortless, cohesive, and truly me:
Make a Wishlist — and Give It Time
One of the biggest mindset shifts I had was learning to pause before purchasing. Instead of buying something on impulse, I started keeping a wishlist — a simple list of pieces I thought I needed or wanted.
Then, I waited. Sometimes for weeks, sometimes for months. More often than not, I found that the initial desire faded, and I no longer felt the need to buy it. Other times, I realized that I truly needed the piece, and having waited helped me make a more thoughtful choice. It would also give me time to research and check for more sustainable options. This simple habit has saved me from impulse purchases and has helped me refine my style in the process.
Tip: Next time you feel the urge to buy something, write it down instead. Revisit your list after some time has passed. If it still feels essential, you’ll know it’s a considered choice rather than an impulse.
Look for Second-Hand
One of the easiest ways to embrace slow fashion is to shift the way we shop. Instead of heading straight to a new purchase, I started looking for second-hand options.
Whether it’s vintage shops, second-hand platforms, or clothing swaps in my neighbourhood, there are so many ways to give pre-loved pieces a new life.
Having a wishlist makes this process even easier because I have a clear idea of what I’m looking for, rather than feeling overwhelmed by options. The best part? Finding something second-hand that perfectly fits my wardrobe feels like a small victory — it is not only sustainable, but also allows me to find unique, high-quality pieces that I will cherish for many years. It takes patience, but when I do find the right piece, it feels so much more rewarding than a quick purchase.
Tip: If you’re new to second-hand shopping, start small. Look for classic wardrobe essentials like well-made trousers, quality denim, or knitwear in natural fibers. These pieces often hold up well and are easier to integrate into your existing wardrobe.
Pay Attention to Materials
A piece of clothing is only as good as the fabric it’s made from. I used to get caught up in how something looked, only to realize later that it didn’t feel good to wear or didn’t last long. Now, before I even try something on, I check the material.
Natural fibers like cotton, linen, wool, and hemp tend to be more breathable, durable, and comfortable. They also age beautifully, unlike synthetic fabrics that pill or lose their shape quickly.
Checking the care label and composition has become a habit to me — it helps me make more conscious choices and ensures that every piece in my wardrobe feels good on my skin. It also helps to check the inner side of a garment and its finishings when buying it in person.
Tip: When shopping, get into the habit of checking care labels and composition first. If something looks beautiful, but is made from a synthetic blend that won’t hold up over time, it’s probably not the best investment.
Discover Your Colour Palette
At first, I didn’t intentionally build a colour palette — it just happened with time. I noticed that I kept gravitating towards the same colours over and over. These were the colours that made me feel good, that were easy to mix and match, and that reflected my personal style.
By being mindful of these preferences, I was able to create a wardrobe where pieces effortlessly work together. No more struggling to find matching pieces or feeling like I had nothing to wear.
Now, when I consider adding something new, I ask myself: Does this fit within my existing colour palette? If not, I pause and reconsider.
Tip: Look at your most-worn outfits and see if a colour pattern emerges. You don’t need to stick to a strict palette, but being aware of your preferred tones can help you build a more cohesive wardrobe with fewer, but more loved, pieces.
Trust Your Own Style, Not Trends
Perhaps the most important lesson I’ve learned is to trust myself. It’s easy to get caught up in trends or to feel like we should be dressing a certain way. But true style isn’t about following fashion — it’s about feeling good in what you wear.
Some days, that might mean a cozy oversized sweater and relaxed trousers. Other days, it could be a dress that makes me feel confident.
The key is listening to yourself rather than outside influences. When we stop worrying about what’s “in” and start dressing for ourselves, getting dressed becomes a joy rather than a chore.
Tip: The next time you feel drawn to a trend, ask yourself: Would I wear this if it weren’t trendy? Does it align with my personal style? If the answer is no, it’s probably not worth adding to your wardrobe.
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Creating a slow, intentional wardrobe isn’t about perfection. It’s about making choices that align with your values, support your lifestyle, and ultimately make getting dressed feel effortless.
By taking a pause before purchasing, seeking out second-hand treasures, choosing quality materials, embracing a personal colour palette, and trusting your own style, you can build a wardrobe that feels good.
Wherever you are on your journey, know that there’s no right or wrong way to do this. Be kind to yourself, because it’s about progress, not perfection. And most importantly, it’s about creating a wardrobe that truly feels like you.
10 Questions to Help You Build an Intentional Wardrobe
Slow fashion is deeply personal, and finding what works for you is key. If you feel stuck in your process or disconnected from your personal style, I have added these extra questions that will help you to slow down and reflect on your own journey.
1. What do I truly love wearing, and why? (Think about the pieces you reach for the most. What makes them feel good?)
2. When was the last time I bought something on impulse? Do I still love and wear it?
3. If I had to describe my personal style in three words, what would they be?
4. What colours do I naturally gravitate towards? Do they mix and match well in my wardrobe?
5. If I could start my wardrobe from scratch, which pieces would I definitely include?
6. Does my wardrobe feel like me? If not, what small changes could I make to bring it closer to my personal style?
7. Which outfit do I feel most confident and comfortable in? What do I love about it?
8. Are there any pieces in my wardrobe that I never wear? Why am I holding onto them?
9. Do I feel overwhelmed when choosing what to wear? If so, what might be causing that feeling?
10. How can I make my wardrobe work better for me without buying anything new (e.g. styling pieces differently, tailoring, or repairing items I already own)?
What other questions would you ask yourself when it comes to building an intentional wardrobe? Are there any other lessons or tips you have learned? Feel free to share them here, maybe they will resonate with us too!
Shifting to a slow wardrobe isn’t about strict rules or getting it all right. It’s about making choices that bring more ease and intention into your life. If you’re on this journey, I hope these lessons and questions help you feel supported and inspired to build an intentional wardrobe that reflects your values and personal style.
With love,
Daniela
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